Movie Stars that only Women like?

I recently read a comment on IMDB snarking that only women like Marilyn Monroe as a movie star. Which oddly puts her in the same category as Audrey Hepburn.

I can't remember who joked that only women liked Audrey and men never think about her... maybe Jeffrey Eugenides?.  Which was a funny joke because basically it is true.  Audrey has a cool exterior, a plausible alibi for any kind of hijinks and a somewhat asexual/gamine element.  I can understand that this persona isn't something men would find off the bat appealing.  Whereas women love her tongue-in-cheek gently knowing demeanor.

But Marilyn?

I always thought that what made Marilyn be Marilyn is because of infatuated male movie fans and that she caused jealous rage in female moviegoers.  At least it seems that way in the hindsight of the Hollywood publicity machine.  But thinking back to my girlhood, watching film with Marilyn in them...I always loved her presence.  Most likely because I loved Some Like It Hot as a kid and she was so funny in it.  It never occurred to me that I should resent her flirty persona and getting attention from men.  As I grew older, I saw her as kind of female Peter Pan figure with a gentle voice covering her streetwise intelligence.  Also I could see at times her impatience with the mask she had to wear, that ever ready "naive" flirt act that made her so famous but got in the way of more important acting roles. I can also see some parallels between her and Audrey.  Whereas her figure promises bad girl fun, her voice and quick wit have a coolness that is as stand offish as Audrey.

I've also heard it said that the fantasy to be taken, to be swept off the feet is really more of a male fantasy.  Marilyn's persona seems to promise this kind of aggression but then she holds back.  This is almost the exact opposite of Audrey, who is nowhere near the bombshell beauty of Marilyn but was portrayed as very aggressive romantically in her film roles.

So the appeal of both women does tie into the female experience in traversing cultural landmines of sex and attraction.  We know almost at once to be in Marilyn's shoes, we have to be stalwartly poised.   But in the comparatively plain brown moth persona of Audrey...anything is possible.  Its the dichotomy set up because of cultural sexism and restraints on women's sexuality.

But yes...Monroe is more than likely a girl's girl movie star just like Hepburn.


Bayou Nutcracker - Alison Stroming and Carlos Lopez

A Lovely clip of Alison Stroming (Dance Theater of Harlem) dancing with Carlos Lopez in the Nutcracker.


Lotte Berk Exercise 1982 Update

So it has been a week.  WOW.  All I can say is, WOW.

The original program, straight from Lotte herself, is turbo charged.  I felt a difference after two days.  I actually see a difference after the first week.

Most of the changes are in my legs, hips and backside.  Especially the backside.  It shrank away.  So if you looking to build out muscle in your buttocks for a rounder shape, this program is probably not what you are looking for at this time.  But for everyone else who wants a straighter, longer line to the body like a dancer than do this tape!  This is why I gravitate to Lotte Berk and the various methods based on her program, because I'm short and tend to look bulky.  The Berk program just gets rid of that bulk and creates the illusion of length, especially in the legs.

The stomach area will take longer.  But this is the case in all exercise programs.  The lower tummy and hip area is where the body stores fat for women.   However it is interesting that I'm seeing my hip area get noticeably smaller but not too much change in the stomach.

These amazing changes do require hard work either every day or includes just one or two days of rest.  The hard work is serious because the exercises shock the muscles.  You won't get anywhere without concentrating because it is easy to cheat.  The exercises are isometric, so it all depends on how much you put into them.  If you slouch or go easy on yourself, you will not see any changes.  And it will be quite easy to blame the program for not working but that will not be the case.  This program requires a lot of self honesty and a willingness to experience momentary discomfort to build stamina.  So do the work.  Even if you are so sore you can't walk fast for a few days.  You will be extremely happy with the results once the soreness eases.

How does this program match up to Callanetics, the Lotte Berk Method, Physique 57 and the other variants?  There is no contest, the original works the best and works faster than all of them.  However I will say if you experience chronic back or knee problems, then stay away from it.  Or if you do take part, take it easy and pay attention to form.  Your knees should be straight and aligned.  Do not arch your back during the leg lifts.  You will get results if you can't life your leg high like the model in the video.

Recently I saw a review of Lotte's program based on her book The Lotte Berk Method of Exercise.  The reviewer complained how sexist some of the advice was in the book and how it encouraged starvation as a diet plan.  All I can say is well...the 70s it was well over 40 years ago.  The exercise industry was barely in its infancy.  A lot of crazy advice was floating around.  I wouldn't follow any diet program from that time than I would for one from 1930.  And sexist culture?  It was a fact back then and it is a fact now.   What the reviewer didn't review, being so intent on her high horse, was the actual exercise program.  Which leads me to believe she got herself so incensed with the introductory material she threw away the rest of it.  It is the exercises that are tried and true not Berk's diet plan.

And I'm telling you it works.  It works unbelievably fast and it will make you happy and confident.  I'll give a further update after my second week is over.


Nightclubs and Cocktails - 8tracks

Nightclubs and Cocktails from Melponeme_k on 8tracks Radio.

I made a new playlist with music from the 20s and 30s.  Listen to it at 8tracks.

Lotte Update

It has been three days into the program.  It is oddly rough and also easy.  The easy part is that the program (if you skip the introduction) is only about 20 minutes.  So it isn't a long time to spend exercising.  The rough part is that every exercise burns like crazy and leaves my muscles loose and wobbly.  As with all the Lotte Berk based workouts, the results are quick to see.  My leg muscles are more toned.

As I suspected the first two days, I was a bit sore.  Not so much where I felt I could not move but enough for me to notice.  It was the worst when just sitting at my desk.  Moving around helped stretch out my muscles and provided some relief.  Today is the first day in which I feel comfortable.  Also I feel I should take just one day this week just to let my muscles recuperate.  Berk advises every day but this workout was filmed way back in 1982.  There have been more studies on exercise and most trainers advise at least one day rest to allow inflammation in the muscles to abate.

This brings me to the next subject.  You have to be careful and use common sense in using this early program.  Just as in the first Jane Fonda video, there will be examples that you must not follow.  The first is do not throw your body around like the model in video.  She will perform loose and fast side bends that she can do because it is obvious she has been performing this exercise program for a long time.  I ignore her and so should you.  Small concentrated motions that give you the benefits and none of the danger.  The model/instructor also performs some questionable neck rolls in a very fast example.  Don't do it!  NO.  Wildly flinging your head around on a loose neck is just asking for big trouble.  Perform your own favorite neck stretches.  The rest of the exercises are straight forward and a part of most Lotte Berk based workouts.  So there won't be anything truly surprising except for the immediate muscle burn.  Berk only requires 4 repetitions for most of the exercises and you will mistakenly laugh thinking what good will 4 reps do? I promise you, you will be crying for mercy after 2 reps.

So tonight will be a rest night and I will finish out the week for the next three days.  Another update then.


Two Weeks with Lotte

I purchased the original Lotte Berk exercise tape from her daughter's (Esther Fairfax) website.  But I have never really experimented with it as a regular program.

So now I'm going to do this tape every day for the next two weeks.  Tonight was the first night.  This routine is tough.  Even with small repetitions, the muscles will burn immediately.  I have a notion that I will be feeling acute soreness for the next few days.  It will be interesting to see how the preliminary results turn out when compared with Callanetics and the Lydia Bach tapes.

I will keep writing updates.

Above is the program in its entirety.  It was uploaded by Esther Fairfax.  If you enjoy the exercise program, be sure to support Fairfax by buying your own copy from her website.



Seven years ago we all went through the flames; and the happiness of some of us since then is, we think, well worth the pain we endured. It is an added joy to Mina and to me that our boy’s birthday is the same day as that on which Quincey Morris died. His mother holds, I know, the secret belief that some of our brave friend’s spirit has passed into him. His bundle of names links all our little band of men together; but we call him Quincey.
In the summer of this year we made a journey to Transylvania, and went over the old ground which was, and is, to us so full of vivid and terrible memories. It was almost impossible to believe that the things which we had seen with our own eyes and heard with our own ears were living truths. Every trace of all that had been was blotted out. The castle stood as before, reared high above a waste of desolation.
When we got home we were talking of the old time—which we could all look back on without despair, for Godalming and Seward are both happily married. I took the papers from the safe where they had been ever since our return so long ago. We were struck with the fact, that in all the mass of material of which the record is composed, there is hardly one authentic document; nothing but a mass of typewriting, except the later note-books of Mina and Seward and myself, and Van Helsing’s memorandum. We could hardly ask any one, even did we wish to, to accept these as proofs of so wild a story. Van Helsing summed it all up as he said, with our boy on his knee:—
“We want no proofs; we ask none to believe us! This boy will some day know what a brave and gallant woman his mother is. Already he knows her sweetness and loving care; later on he will understand how some men so loved her, that they did dare much for her sake.”
Jonathan Harker.